The irony about this post is that it should have gone out last week, but I was busy ~switiching off~, so here it is, one week late but hopefully a little more useful now that i've had time to properly string a few thoughts together, without being totally zen and solely talking about the green grass, mud and occasional sheep of Somerset...

One thing I see so often online are people talking about FOMO (or the 'fear of missing out' if you're a little late to the party as I was). I'm certainly guilty of bouts of envy for things that I'm not a part of, events I would have loved to go to or gatherings I'm watching from afar both off and online (thanks Insta Stories)- and just one symptom of checking your phone every 5 minutes. Sometimes it can feel like if you're not joining in on the latest Twitter conversation it can seem like being left out of a chat in the office, where everyone is gathered around a computer that you can't quite see. Of course that doesn't make it important or integral, but missing out on the noise can sometimes feel like being left out of a conversation you weren't even sure you wanted to be part of- FOMO in it's finest.

I recently read a piece by Sali Hughes on The Pool (my queen) about the overuse of our mobile phones and one thing she said really stood out to me 'For every hour spent reading fake news, watching Vimeos or gazing at other people’s avosmash on toast, all of which we will almost simultaneously forget, we are robbing ourselves of an hour’s worth of real, meaningful memories.' And it's true. Although I know I'll never stop having an indulgent scroll, tucking into my favourite YouTuber videos (why get ready yourself when I can watch someone else doing it !!), prioritising time to do things in the now is incredibly underrated. Why sacrifice one on one time with people for nosing at others we probably care far less about or things we'll forget about by the end of the hour.

So, upon going away last week I was almost relived to know that the wifi was poor (no uploading anything here) and the connection was glitchy- so that every evening I'd be lucky to refresh Twitter from bed, if at all. The main thing for me though, was that I didn't want to forget to pay attention. I wanted to savour this period of relaxing, truly doing something I wanted to do- without the pressures or activity of the internet buzzing around me. To read a book every evening before bed with my phone more than 5 metres away from me, and wake up in the morning knowing that amazingly nothing had changed on the internet in the 6 or 7 hours I hadn't been on it. What is this sorcery!? Because in reality, being away with family- with people I want to be with, doing things I've chosen to do, does make you think- is there anything else, or anyone else I'd rather be with anyway?



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The irony about this post is that it should have gone out last week, but I was busy ~switiching off~, so here it is, one week late but hopefully a little more useful now that i've had time to properly string a few thoughts together, without being totally zen and solely talking about the green grass, mud and occasional sheep of Somerset...

One thing I see so often online are people talking about FOMO (or the 'fear of missing out' if you're a little late to the party as I was). I'm certainly guilty of bouts of envy for things that I'm not a part of, events I would have loved to go to or gatherings I'm watching from afar both off and online (thanks Insta Stories)- and just one symptom of checking your phone every 5 minutes. Sometimes it can feel like if you're not joining in on the latest Twitter conversation it can seem like being left out of a chat in the office, where everyone is gathered around a computer that you can't quite see. Of course that doesn't make it important or integral, but missing out on the noise can sometimes feel like being left out of a conversation you weren't even sure you wanted to be part of- FOMO in it's finest.

I recently read a piece by Sali Hughes on The Pool (my queen) about the overuse of our mobile phones and one thing she said really stood out to me 'For every hour spent reading fake news, watching Vimeos or gazing at other people’s avosmash on toast, all of which we will almost simultaneously forget, we are robbing ourselves of an hour’s worth of real, meaningful memories.' And it's true. Although I know I'll never stop having an indulgent scroll, tucking into my favourite YouTuber videos (why get ready yourself when I can watch someone else doing it !!), prioritising time to do things in the now is incredibly underrated. Why sacrifice one on one time with people for nosing at others we probably care far less about or things we'll forget about by the end of the hour.

So, upon going away last week I was almost relived to know that the wifi was poor (no uploading anything here) and the connection was glitchy- so that every evening I'd be lucky to refresh Twitter from bed, if at all. The main thing for me though, was that I didn't want to forget to pay attention. I wanted to savour this period of relaxing, truly doing something I wanted to do- without the pressures or activity of the internet buzzing around me. To read a book every evening before bed with my phone more than 5 metres away from me, and wake up in the morning knowing that amazingly nothing had changed on the internet in the 6 or 7 hours I hadn't been on it. What is this sorcery!? Because in reality, being away with family- with people I want to be with, doing things I've chosen to do, does make you think- is there anything else, or anyone else I'd rather be with anyway?



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27 comments:

  1. Looks like such a beautiful place! I really need to do the same at one point. I need a little break away from home, somewhere new and to be able to switch off from the Internet for a bit. I need to worry less about being part of something and focus more on doing something that I really want to do! Lovely post :)

    Kayleigh | anenthusiasmfor.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. This post was so captivating Olivia! Such a good perspective to have I'm in total agreement with you on. Every. Single. Point!

    Loved it!

    Elisha-Maé | www.elisha-mae.co.uk

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  3. Having a switched off weekend sounds ideal to me right now

    - Natalie
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  4. Such an important post! I am forever scrolling and feeling envious of blogger chats I see, or holiday stories on snapchat and insta and it's draining and you do miss out on making your own memories. Everyone lives differently, it doesn't mean someone is living better than you! I really need to learn to have my technology detoxes, I'd love to do it once a week for a day or evening!
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  5. Love this live and couldn't agree with the sentiment anymore. I have constant blogging FOMO because I can usually never make events or invites i'm given due to my career. But i recently took two weeks out travelling the Philippines with quite literally NO reception let alone wifi, and it was just the medicine i needed. it's so important to focus on your own journey & not get distracted by others, whether thats successes or parties.

    Mel x

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  6. I had never viewed wasting time on twitter etc like this before and it is so true! Such a great way to bring the issue into the light and I hope you had a lovely weekend away, I can't think of anything much more dreamy than going somewhere luxurious with no connection to anything. Even so days when I get home from work I'm just so tired of having my phone constantly attached to me, it feels like a relief to leave it in another room for a few hours xx

    Frances Kayleigh | Beauty Travel Lifestyle

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  7. I feel a bit bad reading this instead of a book on my last morning of a vacation before heading back home, but I'm also so glad I did. I love your Duvet series and always feel ready to take on the world with new eyes after reading.

    xo nicole
    writeslikeagirlblog.com

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  8. Such a good post! Love switching off every now and then xx

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  9. What Sali Hughes said is so true. We all forget about what other people are doing but yet we feel FOMO or like we haven't got our lives together. I've taken the biggest break from Twitter ever and I have to say I don't miss it!

    Jodie // jodieloue.com

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  10. We all need to take a break from social media every now and again and we definitely need to remember that living in the moment is so important! x

    LuxeStyle

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  11. Thank you for this reminder. It's so true, and so easy to get caught up in the internet and whisked away to far off lands. The here and now is all that matters and I think it's something we need to make ourselves remember on a regular basis, almost daily.

    Thank you for the inspiration, you've motivated me to disconnect a little more, especially around those I love.

    Peta x

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  12. Loving that black-and-white photo of you and Joe. When the both of you get really famous, then this is the stuff of photo-biographie books (like the Jane and Serge one!). And of course, the post is such a perfect reminder to switch off every now and then!

    x
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  13. Love this post - so so important to switch off! I often miss out on reading time because I'm online and think how many books could I read in that time! Looks like a lovely weekend away.

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  14. what charming shots and a really deep meaningful post too. That quote is really powerful and I couldn't agree more that technology sometimes overrules us. I think a technology detox should be something we all do from time to time atleast.

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  15. amazing post,switching off helps so much winding down,It is hard forme to do so but I try from time to time to do it x

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  16. Those photos are gorgeous! Looks like such a beautiful, cute and cosy place <3

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    Victoria

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  17. ow what lovely photographs you have taken! great photography xx

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  18. I totally agree that we need to spend less time on our phones! I am so guilty of spending hours scrolling through Instagram - I have to cut down!

    Lynnsay x
    www.sartorialscot.com

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  19. I'm definitely guilty of spending a little too much time on my phone but you're right, it's so important to focus on being in the moment and away from social media every so often ♥

    Amy // Snippets of Amy

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  20. Love this so much! I went away to Edinburgh two weeks ago and had no data on my phone, so the days were spent absolutely loving every minute and taking in everything without the need to share on social media. (Though I was constantly snapping pictures!) Your photos are gorgeous and I hope you had a wonderful time. xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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  21. Sounds idyllic to me.
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  22. Nice photos! ;)

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  23. Looks like you had an amazing time!x

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  24. It looks so cute there!!
    xo
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  25. Love this post! I have been trying to step away from my phone and the hours I spend endlessly scrolling and seeing other people chasing their dreams and finally decided to chase my own.

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  26. Love this post! Weekends, and even smaller moments, like that are so important. I've definitely noticed lately how glued to my phone I am and I need to properly try to be better at just... well, being! As cliched as it sounds, I've noticed doing yoga helps, as well as switching off one hour before bedtime. It's the little things! x

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

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