'I'm not sure Alexa is sitting worrying about Ivy Park is she?' - Joe, forever the voice of reason.

I don't often sit down and have a big old typed heart to heart on here. I used to do it a little more when I began, and I was probably (or almost certainly) a little more liberal with my keyboard. A lot of bloggers and writers routinely pen their thoughts on careers, comparison and the like- and it's only after a long week of cabin fever (read: watching Judge Rinder in crumb-covered-clothes) that I thought I'd put a little something together myself.

So, let's start with this: I'm primarily a fashion blogger. I've been doing fashion and style related posts since I began over six years ago, and although there's now a whole variety of different bloggers- that's largely the bracket I fall into. However, unlike when I began- the sea of fashion bloggers is now so vast that seeing lots of people do different exciting, big, groundbreaking things can be incredible and also a little overwhelming.

But hold up! I'll just stress this, I know what a fortunate position I'm in to be doing this full time. To even glance sideways at someone doing something that could vary from championing a book deal, a presenting job or huge campaign is unbelievable. But next to that, I do sometimes doubt my place in the blogging world. 99% of the time I seem to have a huge case of impostor syndrome (I recently went to an event and had to say to someone 'lol! I don't know why I'm here either!'). I dip into a few overlapping categories, am often described as having 'quirky' style (insert chin-scratch-emoji here) and am very good at putting a lot of pressure upon myself (as I know a lot of people, self employed or indeed otherwise, are incredibly guilty of).

So, upon a recent DMC* with Joe, he sat down and spoke a little sense into me that I thought I'd share here. Like explaining the offside rule via shoe shopping, Joe likened the sphere of blogging to T.V. In mediums like television there are much clearer demographics. For example, one thing Joe said to me was; 'Liv, I don’t think Charlie Brooker is going to have sleepless nights over the viewing figures of Dr Who is he?' Another example was using two of my faves Richard Ayoade and Dermot O'Leary (yup, because the only way I can explain situations is via TV). Dermot might have the X Factor gig- reaching a broader market, but Richard just wouldn't quite suit the bill. He'd have to adapt his humour, his style- possibly so much he wouldn't enjoy it- but that doesn't make either of them any less successful. You can be the Bear Grylls of blogging or Ant and Dec- it doesn't matter.

And it applies to everything. In short, success is so often built on numbers and not enough to what's actually being offered to the readers, and you shouldn't let this effect what you're doing. It's difficult- but it's possible. You can be the Bridget Jones of blogging (which isn't just applicable to my packing-sitch-on-safari) but still be producing things better than you've ever done. Just because you're in your dressing gown, clicking through the Radio Times on your weekly 'WHAT TIME IS FIRST DATES ON?! mission- it doesn't mean that you're lagging behind. Switch off your side eye goggles and set your sights straight ahead. Take what others are doing as a nod to an awesome industry and not a knock to your own personal bests- and care more about what you're doing than anyone else. It's what makes us stronger after all ~a cliché drop the mic~...

*deep meaningful chat, duh

x

'I'm not sure Alexa is sitting worrying about Ivy Park is she?' - Joe, forever the voice of reason.

I don't often sit down and have a big old typed heart to heart on here. I used to do it a little more when I began, and I was probably (or almost certainly) a little more liberal with my keyboard. A lot of bloggers and writers routinely pen their thoughts on careers, comparison and the like- and it's only after a long week of cabin fever (read: watching Judge Rinder in crumb-covered-clothes) that I thought I'd put a little something together myself.

So, let's start with this: I'm primarily a fashion blogger. I've been doing fashion and style related posts since I began over six years ago, and although there's now a whole variety of different bloggers- that's largely the bracket I fall into. However, unlike when I began- the sea of fashion bloggers is now so vast that seeing lots of people do different exciting, big, groundbreaking things can be incredible and also a little overwhelming.

But hold up! I'll just stress this, I know what a fortunate position I'm in to be doing this full time. To even glance sideways at someone doing something that could vary from championing a book deal, a presenting job or huge campaign is unbelievable. But next to that, I do sometimes doubt my place in the blogging world. 99% of the time I seem to have a huge case of impostor syndrome (I recently went to an event and had to say to someone 'lol! I don't know why I'm here either!'). I dip into a few overlapping categories, am often described as having 'quirky' style (insert chin-scratch-emoji here) and am very good at putting a lot of pressure upon myself (as I know a lot of people, self employed or indeed otherwise, are incredibly guilty of).

So, upon a recent DMC* with Joe, he sat down and spoke a little sense into me that I thought I'd share here. Like explaining the offside rule via shoe shopping, Joe likened the sphere of blogging to T.V. In mediums like television there are much clearer demographics. For example, one thing Joe said to me was; 'Liv, I don’t think Charlie Brooker is going to have sleepless nights over the viewing figures of Dr Who is he?' Another example was using two of my faves Richard Ayoade and Dermot O'Leary (yup, because the only way I can explain situations is via TV). Dermot might have the X Factor gig- reaching a broader market, but Richard just wouldn't quite suit the bill. He'd have to adapt his humour, his style- possibly so much he wouldn't enjoy it- but that doesn't make either of them any less successful. You can be the Bear Grylls of blogging or Ant and Dec- it doesn't matter.

And it applies to everything. In short, success is so often built on numbers and not enough to what's actually being offered to the readers, and you shouldn't let this effect what you're doing. It's difficult- but it's possible. You can be the Bridget Jones of blogging (which isn't just applicable to my packing-sitch-on-safari) but still be producing things better than you've ever done. Just because you're in your dressing gown, clicking through the Radio Times on your weekly 'WHAT TIME IS FIRST DATES ON?! mission- it doesn't mean that you're lagging behind. Switch off your side eye goggles and set your sights straight ahead. Take what others are doing as a nod to an awesome industry and not a knock to your own personal bests- and care more about what you're doing than anyone else. It's what makes us stronger after all ~a cliché drop the mic~...

*deep meaningful chat, duh

x

32 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this Liv. It's blog posts like these (and your ultra kind emails, tweets, youtube/snapchat videos ETC ETC!) that make me feel like you are one of the most important bloggers we have - who not only gives us those stunningly, carefully put together posts filled with gorgeous photos and equally well written entries - but for sharing posts like these and reminding us (and hopefully yourself in the process!) "you are enough". <3

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  2. Couldn't agree more. But we all know it's harder said than done. I'm forever feeling hard on myself and my blog and my content, sad it's not as big or successful as others, disappointed I haven't experienced that 'break through' type moment and I'm forever comparing my work to others (which is damn right disheartening). But Joe is a wise man, there's room for everyone and the biggest sense of achievement comes from hitting your goals not matching someone elses.

    And while I'm here. Don't forget to many people you are that beacon of success :) don't be too hard on yourself xx

    Mel x

    mediamarmalade.com

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  3. Love seeing these more personal posts on your blog, along with the fashion ;)

    moremindfulyou.blogspot.com

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  4. It's great to hear these thoughts from someone like yourself, whose content has inspired me for so long - thank you for sharing! Molly x
    www.mollipop.co.uk

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  5. I so needed this - not for my blog per se, but more for my personal goals. It's so important to forget what others are doing - congratulate and support them, sure - but don't let it get you down! I love your blog and read every post. You're bossing it! xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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  6. I'm fairly new to blogging and I already get these feelings! Some days I feel like I've been in the industry for ages and am already feeling these pressures, I suppose that you're right... it just comes with the 'blogging' industry becoming more understood and widely accepted for it's hard efforts which is overall a good thing for us all! :)

    I can imagine you must sometimes feel like you aren't in the position to complain as such or state your worries of feeling inferior, but I would love to read some more of these personal posts from you! It also always helps to get your feelings off your chest, and sooner than later :)

    I love Joe's advice! Definitely going to try and take that on board ha :)

    Heather x www.atelierofstyle.co.uk

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  7. Liv, I LOVED this, so very true. Thank you.

    www.tinytwisst.com

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  8. I loved this post, it is all to easy to compare yourself to your peers. You just have to remember that everyone is on a different path and going in a different direction is okay because it will get you their eventually.

    Chloe Jayne | https://chloejaynep.wordpress.com/

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  9. What a great post. Its sad but human nature that we compare, but it robs you of your joy of the job. For me ive been blogging for 18mths now started out as a beautyblogger as im a MUA by trade but found that i slowly evolved into a fashion/style blogger. It was purely by accident but i enjoy more.there is room for us all as we all have a unique voice,opinion and style.I say be happy for those who get good deals,champion everyone you like and we then will achieve our goals!

    Www.naybeautymua.com

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  10. I love this! It's so easy for me to look at bloggers who have a great minimalist aesthetic and wonder why I don't. And yet, I adore bloggers with more unique and dare I say quirky styles because it's more relateable to me and my personal style. There are personal styles for everyone, and everyone's style will appeal to some audience out there! Thanks for sharing-- keep doing what you're doing! You shine so brightly in the industry!
    -Lauren
    http://www.chic-ethique.com/

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  11. Such a nice post dear :)

    www.evdaily.blogspot.com

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  12. Such wise words thank you (and thank you Joe). I really needed this, it's so easy to fall into comparing yourself and competing against everyone, when that isn't fair at all

    - Natalie
    www.workovereasy.com

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  13. Aw Liv you're my favourite blogger(not just saying that ether).
    You're such an honest person and I love your sense of style. I find that quite a few fashion bloggers have similar styles so I enjoy popping over to your blog and seeing something different.
    Also, I get this so often, I'm self doubter and definitely compare myself to others far too much but, I'm trying my best to get better with it. I would love to get my blog to the stage yours is at, having such great content and beautiful images.
    xx

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  14. I've just read this post and really think the opposite. I have followed you for a long time now and recently you have definitely had very notable success, which means you are growing and expanding and generally being awesome. I've seen you on holiday with Lucy Williams and photos from Venice were in STELLA magazine! No need to compare yourself because you are most definitely on your way, if not there already, to being one of those really well known bloggers! X www.newgirlontheblog.me

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  15. Fabulous post Liv. An some stellar advice from both you & Joe, a subject a think should be highlighted more about the blogging world. We are individuals and that's why I follow so many different bloggers and blogging genres. I love the diversity every individual has to showcase their style, decor or lifestyle. Thanks for the pep talk, I sure needed it! Xx

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  16. I love this post! I've been stumbling across more and more doubtful blogger posts--especially big name bloggers--and it makes me feel so much better about continuing to blog. I took a six month hiatus from my blog after hearing negative feedback from people around me and constantly comparing myself to other, successful bloggers out there. But the truth is, it makes me happy! I love finding posts like this because they give me the inspiration I need to continue creating content and not getting discouraged. Thank you for this! I love your blog, please don't ever stop updating!

    xoxo
    http://www.thepalegeranium.com/

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  17. Such an inspiring post! Thanks Liv! I am a huge fan of your blog and treat myself to reading your latest blog posts at the end of a busy week. I'm just starting out in the world of blogging, so your wise words and encouragement couldn't have come at a better time! Keep doing what you're doing girl, you totally rock xox :) - Daisy

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  18. Well, Liv. You are brilliant. I'm so often guilty of seeing everything that everyone else seems to be doing and wondering, "what's the point, I'll never amount to anything.."
    But if I love what I do, and people are still reading, then it's all ok.
    x

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  19. Hello from the other side of SE London Liv!

    Just read this beautifully worded post and I thought I should share with you how much I love (and envy) all the amazing things you write and do!
    I always watch your snapchats and see all the amazing things you are doing becuase you have created such a brilliant blog!
    Magazine campaigns, high end brand collabs and sponsored weekends away all over the world are all on the wish list for my blogging future.
    So while you may be looking ahead to what you are hoping to achieve, remember you are inspiring those who are just a few steps behind you too :)

    Sending Love,


    Eboni xx

    Http://www.eboniivory.blogspot.co.uk

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  20. Fantastic post Liv. I think we often compare ourselves to those who are doing so well but forget that everyone is just different in so many aspects. We all have the ability in offering something different and we should help to excel that.

    Megan xo
    Thumbelina Lillie | UK Beauty & Fashion Blog

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  21. I really needed to read this to end an equally slumpy week (crying about my thesis midweek and having a bit of Instagram anxiety basically every day). Thanks Liv for being an awesome blogger!

    My blog: BOWTIE DIARY

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  22. Loved this, Liv. I think we could all do with hearing these wise words once in a while. It's become such a huge and successful market now that sometimes it seems difficult not to compare yourself to others but you (& Joe!) are right, there's plenty of room for us all <3

    Harriet Pattison | UK Fashion Blog

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  23. A great post - it's so easy to compare ourselves all the time to others, rather than focusing on ourselves and doing what is right for us.

    www.luxestyle.co.uk

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  24. Love this! Very hard not to compare ourselves to others x

    www.shayholly.co.uk

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  25. I've read your blog for years Liv and always thought 'man she is so cool, she's doing so well' but being human doesn't stop us when it comes to comparison. You and Joe are so right, of course Alexa doesn't compare against Ivy Park because they're no way the same even in the same market, but it always feels like bloggers are so similar that its easier to compare even if they are writing about food and you do beauty!! I think worrying shows you care about your work and doing better, and just know that gals like me are always looking at you for inspiration :)

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Beauty Wellbeing

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  26. I have to LOL at the explanation of DMC at the bottom, cause I totally had to google it. :) This line you wrote is so spot on, "Take what others are doing as a nod to an awesome industry and not a knock to your own personal bests- and care more about what you're doing than anyone else." I fall into the trap of envy of what others are doing and it is never helpful. So it's such a great idea to think of it as more what is possible in the industry that I'm working in and take it as my chance has been taken from me. xo, Katie

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  27. Liv, I have to say I used to follow so SO many fashion blogs back in the day. Now I only follow you, Carrie and Kristabel. (The other blogs I like are interiors or more lifestyle-esque, like Cup of Jo.) There is a reason I still follow you - I enjoy your posts, you're relatable, have an amazing sense of style, and seem so nice. The glossy 'big' blogs don't appeal, when am I going to afford an outfit from Chanel?! Half the reason I read blogs is for inspiration, and knowing I could buy something you're wearing is half the fun of reading the posts. You only need to see how many times you, or something you've worn, appear on my Pinterest boards to see how your style resonates with people.

    Keep it up Liv! Comparison is the thief of joy n'all that. xx

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  28. Such a gorgeous post! You write so beautifully...

    Emma | Fashion Photographer and Model | emmanmh.com

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  29. Lovely, to hear this stated. It's not only hard not to compare yourself in the blogging realm of things. It is hard not to compare yourself to other people in whatever genre of life. Someone said , and I can't remember who, but the saying has stuck with me . " Comparison is the thief of joy". Its hard not to compare yourself to someone else when people try to compare your beauty, success, or whatever to other's as well. Its hard to stay focused on what it is your trying to convey or trying to achieve. It is a work in progress for many. Anyway, please keep being the best of yourself. Kisses and hugs and more love to you💌

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  30. It's always great to read posts like this. I have such a problem with comparing myself to others and that recently made me take a two week blogging break because I felt so overwhelmed and uninspired! But now I'm trying to focus on me and my blog whilst also acknowledging how awesome the ladies in the industry are doing! Great post! XX
    www.fashionetmoi.com

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  31. Yes yes yes. Just what I needed to read. Thank you!


    xxx

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  32. Such true words..thank you for this Liv! You´re amazing <3


    https://andreaandcoco.wordpress.com/

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