What Olivia Did Drinks One of my first ever posts when I began blogging all those four years ago was about not drinking (which you can spot here). It's not the most well worded piece on the internet, and it probably won't win me any prizes for being articulate- but it was impulsive, honest and was written moments after reading a magazine article that stood out to 17 year old me, like not a lot else had- and a nice change from some incredibly awkward posed dining room outfit shots- but more on that another time.

Not drinking as a 21 year old is pretty weird. Not because I'm constantly feeling FOMO (a lemonade cures FOMO for me a lot of the time) but the constant feeling of justifying why is a little odd at times, and usually makes me feel a bit embarrassed (using other more-valid feeling excuses other than 'you know, I just don't really like it/it doesn't agree with me/I hate feeling sick')- plus, it's the only thing that's ever questioned if you don't do it (nobody ever asks why people don't smoke, do drugs or shop excessively (ahem). But I get it- I know being next to teetotal at the 'prime' of my 'going out out' years is an odd thing and not of the norm, and I can honestly understand every bit of curiosity people have with it. It's ok to ask, it really is.

The thing that irks the most is the unacceptance of it with other people. The fact people can't possibly believe you wouldn't want to drink and make it their mission to just have one, or how funny it'd be to get you just a little bit drunk- a problem that cropped up at every single sixth form or university party, and constantly made me worry about how 'boring' or 'up-tight' I'd come across. In the article I read all of those moons ago, Jameela Jamil puts a good spin on it, 'I don't eat fish, either, yet no one's ever tried to ram a mackarel down my throat'- and it's pretty bloody true. In the past people have assumed I haven't wanted to sit in cool cocktail bars (always a yes- even better when there's sliders), or watch anyone drink red wine with a meal (come on now folks)- and the only difference between going out as a drinker and going out as a non drinker is that you have to add the word 'mock' or 'virgin' to the beginning of a drink- in my experience at least. Fortunately (or not) for most, I'm able to cut some pretty poor dance floor shapes solely on one virgin mojito- win win, am I right?

People often consider it as a superiority thing, and it's funny to think I'd ever feel more important, or better than anyone else solely due to having a tipple in hand (trust me, the last thing I do on a night out is watch other people drinking and think 'ugh, what are they doing'- it's all about focussing whether Beyonce will be played)- because I honestly couldn't mind less. All of my best friends drink, my boyfriend drinks and my family does- and it couldn't be less of a problem if it tried. The only thing that makes a night out different, is that the day after I have a little more to spend at Whistles and sometimes less of a headache- and I'm ok with that.

This isn't a critique of drinking, not drinking or everything in between, and I'm certainly not preaching about my habits- I just wanted to chat about what it's like being on the other side of lots of curiosity from friends and occasionally family, in hope perhaps even one reader can relate and feel a bit less 'boring'- because, check this- you're not! Now get your dancing shoes and enjoy your Saturday night, Cosmo or Cola in hand and paint the town red!

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What Olivia Did Drinks One of my first ever posts when I began blogging all those four years ago was about not drinking (which you can spot here). It's not the most well worded piece on the internet, and it probably won't win me any prizes for being articulate- but it was impulsive, honest and was written moments after reading a magazine article that stood out to 17 year old me, like not a lot else had- and a nice change from some incredibly awkward posed dining room outfit shots- but more on that another time.

Not drinking as a 21 year old is pretty weird. Not because I'm constantly feeling FOMO (a lemonade cures FOMO for me a lot of the time) but the constant feeling of justifying why is a little odd at times, and usually makes me feel a bit embarrassed (using other more-valid feeling excuses other than 'you know, I just don't really like it/it doesn't agree with me/I hate feeling sick')- plus, it's the only thing that's ever questioned if you don't do it (nobody ever asks why people don't smoke, do drugs or shop excessively (ahem). But I get it- I know being next to teetotal at the 'prime' of my 'going out out' years is an odd thing and not of the norm, and I can honestly understand every bit of curiosity people have with it. It's ok to ask, it really is.

The thing that irks the most is the unacceptance of it with other people. The fact people can't possibly believe you wouldn't want to drink and make it their mission to just have one, or how funny it'd be to get you just a little bit drunk- a problem that cropped up at every single sixth form or university party, and constantly made me worry about how 'boring' or 'up-tight' I'd come across. In the article I read all of those moons ago, Jameela Jamil puts a good spin on it, 'I don't eat fish, either, yet no one's ever tried to ram a mackarel down my throat'- and it's pretty bloody true. In the past people have assumed I haven't wanted to sit in cool cocktail bars (always a yes- even better when there's sliders), or watch anyone drink red wine with a meal (come on now folks)- and the only difference between going out as a drinker and going out as a non drinker is that you have to add the word 'mock' or 'virgin' to the beginning of a drink- in my experience at least. Fortunately (or not) for most, I'm able to cut some pretty poor dance floor shapes solely on one virgin mojito- win win, am I right?

People often consider it as a superiority thing, and it's funny to think I'd ever feel more important, or better than anyone else solely due to having a tipple in hand (trust me, the last thing I do on a night out is watch other people drinking and think 'ugh, what are they doing'- it's all about focussing whether Beyonce will be played)- because I honestly couldn't mind less. All of my best friends drink, my boyfriend drinks and my family does- and it couldn't be less of a problem if it tried. The only thing that makes a night out different, is that the day after I have a little more to spend at Whistles and sometimes less of a headache- and I'm ok with that.

This isn't a critique of drinking, not drinking or everything in between, and I'm certainly not preaching about my habits- I just wanted to chat about what it's like being on the other side of lots of curiosity from friends and occasionally family, in hope perhaps even one reader can relate and feel a bit less 'boring'- because, check this- you're not! Now get your dancing shoes and enjoy your Saturday night, Cosmo or Cola in hand and paint the town red!

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104 comments:

  1. This is a brilliantly worded post, and sums up everything I feel about drinking, or not as in our case. However, in order to try and "fit in" I have drunk far more than I like to on a few occasions lately and spent the entire next day regretting it. I would like to give up alcohol completely but I don't mind having the odd glass of wine or cocktail, and don't want to be a hypocrite. I'm going to have to be a lot tougher in the future about not liking to get drunk instead.

    I wrote a similar post on my blog a few months ago, about why I hate getting drunk, so there are other bloggers out there who agree with you!

    Rachel x
    The Inelegant Wench

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  2. Thank you so much for writing this. You DID make me feel less boring and weird for not enjoying drinking nor going out to smokey clubs until morning.
    Thank youu. xx

    Catarina // ohkori.blogspot.com

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  3. before I met my husband, I was your typical pint/g&t drinker on a night out. but since we met (he's a professional bartender!) I've been lucky enough to have incredible drinks made for me that made me really appreciate the art and skill of it all. i've stopped drinking wildly as I did in my uni-days and now enjoy one or two perfect cocktails on occasion

    I drink significantly less now, but the quality is much better and I absolutely never get drunk. a lot of people look at me a bit funny because i'm not interested in getting black out drunk at the weekends, but I just ignore it, focus on my lovely Clover Club (its pink! and raspberry!) and the feeling of not being hungover the next morning.

    The no-drinkers and one-drinkers of the world are certainly not boring and I think it's awesome that at 21 you're so impervious to the peer pressure of it all. I can't say I was the same when I was that age!

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  4. exactly on my wavelength!! I'm 21 and I don't like to drink either, and I've constantly been teased about it by my friends. It makes me feel much better to read pieces like yours to know I'm not weird in my choices. Thank you so much for writing this!
    Emily x x

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  5. I totally agree with this! I'm completely teetotal and it gets so exhausting having to justify yourself all the time - or worse - being judged negatively for it. Luckily I've never really been too bothered by it and I can still have a fab time without a drink in hand. It's so nice to hear other bloggers in the same boat. (Jameela Jamil's article was totally inspirational to me too =])

    Nikki

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  6. I adore you for this post! A few years I decided also to stop drinking: and what should I say? I feel not only much better - even my life is much better now! Honestly I'm alone with my habit in my environment: obviously it's not usual not to drink as an 44 year old woman. But my son, who is 19 neither drinks and my husband really seldom :)

    Lovely greetings from Germany/Bavaria, Rena

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  7. Thanks for sharing this! It feels so honest and authentic. x

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  8. Thank you for this. I am twenty and in my first year and get so embarrassed when the topic of drinking comes up because I don't and have never got drunk and people always look down on me because of it. :(

    Xo
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  9. I love this post Liv. This is such an important topic and I'm so grateful that someone as articulate and intelligent as yourself has written about it - you convey the 'issue' perfectly.

    Beth xo.

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  10. Hooray. This is good to read. I'm 23 and don't really drink either (minus the occasional half glass of red wine with lasagne). I've learned to be comfortable with it... but I hate how other people get so hung up on it. And I always find it weird how people think it's boring not to drink but don't seem to think it might be boring for other people to have to hear them talking about drinking *all* the time. 'Lets change the subject guys. Chatting about liquids isn't all that thrilling.'

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  11. I'm 27 and have drunk since I was 17 (more like 15) but in the last few months I haven't drunk. I've found it affect me more and more and I don't like it anymore. Only problem is I find myself having to explain it all the time, or worse caveat that I'm NOT pregnant. Drink free is the way forward. X

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  12. Well said - very honest. I personally enjoy a cocktail or glass of wine on occasion but not wanting to go out every weekend and get pissed is apparently not "normal". Alcohol is fun at times but there are plenty of other ways to entertain yourself and it's your choice which you choose. People should not look down on each other for making a choice. :) x

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  13. Thanks for writing this lady! I didn't drink in college either and remember having similar anxieties. Even being a blogger, every event seems to have a fancy cocktail of some kind. It's really nice to know there are others in the biz with the same reservations about alcohol. xo

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  14. I often drive on nights out (instead of getting a taxi home on my own) and when you ask for a cranberry juice minus the vodka at the bar I feel myself having to justify my reason for not drinking with the fact I'm driving. This goes the same for other people that find out I'm not drinking either. The fact people make it their mission/obsession to get you to drink on a night out is ridiculous. H

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  15. This is brilliantly written and well-put Olivia! Great to her your opinion on the matter and it would be great if more people were as open-minded x.

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  16. This is brilliantly written and well-put Olivia! Great to her your opinion on the matter and it would be great if more people were as open-minded x.

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  17. This was really interesting to read, really enjoyed it! I've never thought about why people ask 'why don't you drink?' but don't ask it about anything else... it has become the norm. Will be checking out your first post on this as well!

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  18. My boyfriend doesn't drink and I rarely do and when I do drink it's because I actually enjoy the taste of what I'm drinking as oposed to wanting to get drunk! There's nothing boring about not drinking at all and people need to get used to that! Great post :) xx

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  19. I like the occasional drink, like a glass of wine after a day at work, or maybe a nice cocktail when I go for a meal. However, when I go on 'nights out' with my friends I don't drink as I've grown to hate the feeling of a hangover. The argument I have to go through with them is ridiculous on their part, they always ask why and I always say 'because I don't want to' but it's never enough - they don't realise that it doesn't make you boring! I'm just as fun without a drink (ha!)!

    Megan xo
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  20. I enjoyed reading this. I do drink but to a lesser extent than most of my friends. I rarely drink during the day whereas they will if we go to a pub for a meal for example most will have a drink. Me and my husband both rarely drink in the house - like tonight for example he has water I have tea! I do enjoy a glass of wine in the house but I like to keep it to weekends and it's usually just a glass. I do occasionally get drunk and bust some shapes with the girls in the dance floor (not that I even need to drink to do this!) and I don't mind being in that giddy funny state but I hate loosing control and feeling sick the next day! I don't have an issue with people not drinking - I actually have more of an issue with people who have to drink to have a good time! You should be able to do that alcohol or no!

    Jen x
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  21. This is such a brilliant post. I'm only 15 but I've already made up mind that drinking is not for me but some times I wonder if that's weird because you know, most teenagers can't wait to drink. This post basically encouraged me so thank you Olivia! xx

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  22. I'm with you on this one. I don't see the point in drinking, which is something my 19 year old self would never thought they'd see me say! But people think you're crazy for not drinking but it's our choice at the end of the day :) Love your jumper! xx

    Laura | lauraslittleloves

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  23. It's so nice to for me to read that since I don't like to drink as well and totally feel the same way about it. Most of the people now know that I don't drink and are fine with it, but some times when I'm meeting new people they don't really understand why I'm not drinking and that I can totally have wonderful and funny nights without drinking. As you, I'm also totally fine when I'm around people who drink as most people in my life do but sometimes it would be nice if some people just accept that I don't drink. As you said it, just because I don't drink doesn't mean I'm boring :-)
    So thanks for this post, it's nice to hear that some people feel the same way :-)
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  24. What a great post. I never drink I had a ex partner that drunk all the time and he treat me awful ever since then I stay away from drunk people and I never drink. xox

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  25. I'm 30 and I've never drank, it was tough at uni, people made really unbelievably weird remarks about it, I.E "Are you an alcoholic or something?!" No...I just never felt the need to! I've had a sip of wine now and then and actually don't really like it either. But like you, I'm fine with my friends drinking, it's just I'm happy with lemonade, and can have just as much fun. Great post :)

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  26. I don't know why people are bothered by someone either doing or not doing the same thing as thing. Does it stem from insecurity of theirs that drinking isn't 100% acceptable? Who knows! I support you in your decision to not drink - and if you someday want to, I support that as well!

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  27. I'm so glad someone has written this post and especially you Olivia. I haven't had a drink since this time last year, just before I was 21. I've not had an urge to drink whatsoever and it bugs me when people ask why I don't drink. It's a personal choice; I don't shove it down people's throats and don't expect them to judge me but they do. I don't judge those who drink, it's just a choice I made not to and feel much better about it. I feel embarrassed too when I'm asked why just like you but why should we? However, I choose not to go on nights out because of peer pressure and drunken people. I'd much prefer to go out for food with friends instead and a good old natter! A fantastic post!

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  28. this is so well-written liv, well done you for taking your stand on this.

    personally, i love to drink (even though i've had more than one horrendous all day hangovers). i'm fairly shy & it loosens me up, which probably isn't the healthiest thing but hey, it's true.

    each to their own i say! :-)

    becky :: accooohtrements.wordpress.com

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  29. Fab post! I think more people need to realise that you can have fun without drinking. I'm at university and every social seems to revolve around drinking which makes me feel really excluded as a non-drinking Muslim xx

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  30. I used to be probably the worst on nights out, but I realised the day after how much I kept hating myself for it so now I drink muuch less or just none at all too! Alcohol doesn't tend to taste very nice anyway does it!!
    Rose and Weston x

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  31. Thank you for posting this. I agreed with every word. I've never drank in my life and have no desire to. I'm glad you mentioned the superiority thing because it's really got nothing to do with that, it's just a choice. I've no issue at all with the people around me that drink so it feels really unfair when I get judged for not drinking. I've dealt with many instances of people spiking my drink to get me drunk "for a laugh" and it's absurd. People always talk about it like I'm from another planet and lots of people bet me I'd drink at least once by the time I hit my 20's, I didn't lose those bets. Anyway this was a really good read, I remember reading your original post on the topic and agreeing with that. Drinking culture is a huge deal in the UK and people can be made to feel like a loser if they don't get wasted now and then so thank you for posting this and proving you can be glamorous and fun without needing a Cosmopolitan in hand. x

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  32. I couldn't agree more! I very very rarely drink - it takes a Pimms or a particularly fruity cocktail for me to have a tipple - I don't like the taste of alcohol or the way it makes me feel after a few, which is quite difficult when you're at uni & everyone around you seems to be consuming it via drip! I do wish I knew more like minded people but I guess that'll come with time, meanwhile I get to sit nice & smug whilst those around me nurse the morning-after headache :) Liv x

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  33. Great post and I completely agree with the points you raised. I sometimes feel like I have to give a long winded reason as to why I'm not drinking, and when you think about it having to do this is just quite bizarre.
    I think this is especially relevant coming up to the Christmas season. Thank you! x

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  34. I am trying to deter from drinking because in fact it gets me into more trouble than not, messes with my medication and doesn't help with any existing mental health problems ans I thonk the only thing worse than being a non-drinker is being one after being a near alcoholic! But well done to everyone who didn't give into the peer pressure of sixth form parties and university ajindigs - not being bothered by others means those of us wanting to stop are not alienated and have a different crowd to fall back on to stay away from those unsavoury influences if you drank like I did and did the drugs I have done. Keep going guys! Helena

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  35. It's nice to read this post, and not only that, but the comments that have stemmed from it. I have never been a big drinker and felt such pressure to at university because people didn't understand that it just wasn't 'my thing'. Finally, at almost 24,
    I am more than happy to turn round and tell people I don't want to drink or that I choose not to.
    I will have the occasional drink, but that's it, very occasional. I would rather spend my money on a new pair of shoes or a burger! xo

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  36. Thank you for this post. I'm the exact same, and it's so lovely and reassuring to know that other people are in the same boat and I'm not the weirdest 19 year old ever, like I feel I am constantly reminded. My close friends and family are very understanding, but I've found socialising at university to be so daunting because of it, almost excluded in a way. So thank you for making me realise that I'm not alone!
    x

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  37. Story of my life! Being a student, everyone's always like, 'what do you mean you don't drink?!' I don't get why it isn't seen as a normal thing. If you don't want to do something then you don't do it, and people should be more accepting of it.
    Great post :)

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  38. Interesting post! This is beautifully written, and doesn't come off as judgemental either so don't worry about that :) There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to drink, and although I do drink when I go out I've started taking the odd night off - it's incredible how much better you feel the next day!

    Tessa / Bramble & Thorn

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  39. Such a lovely post. Beautifully written and I really enjoyed reading it!

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  40. Yes! This post sums up every night out for the last year for me! People think I'm boring when I don't drink, and I kinda don't like the taste of alcohol really, and I really don't like wasting my money on it or having the headache in the morning. Like you I'd rather have more money to spend in my favourite shops.
    The other day I went to a blogger's event and had one drink - I was so happy to have a casual one because I wanted to and not because I felt like I had to.
    Amazing post - a favourite!

    CAT xo

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  41. I am the same here. It annoys me when you are out and being friendly and people assume you are drunk and they question why you aren't

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  42. I'm with you Olivia! I gave up drinking for work reason for a little while when I was 21, I started again as a result of going through some bad times and drank to block out the world rather than to enjoy myself - I ended up a miserable, bloated mess. I now drink very rarely and have probably only been drunk about 4 times in the last couple of years, and yes it bothers everyone else way more than i bothers me! But when you get to a certain age (I'm a bit older than you) getting wasted just looks a bit tragic. Keep it up lovely xx
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  43. Fantastic post Liv! You have articulated exactly how I feel on this issue. As an 18 year old non-drinker I am constantly having to justify to others when I go out why I am not drinking. For me, it's just down to a personal choice - I don't have any issue whatsoever with other people choosing to drink. I just wish that people could be a little more open-minded and accepting of other's decisions.

    On another note I absolutely love your blog! You have such a gorgeous style and your writing just exudes personality and warmth. Also loving your YouTube channel - keep up the great work! xx

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  44. im the same too - 26 YO and have only ever got drunk just the once to try and fit in and hated it! im always having to explain myself to people who seem fascinated i dont drink at all and that if i dont drink that makes me a boring person. i always feel excluded at events but its easy to tell when i've sat back n watched which people really like drinking and which ones at a party are doing it to fit in! most of them are the latter! x

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  45. Good on you for sticking to your guns. Well written post.
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  46. Im the same, i gave up drinking 3 years ago, it never made me happy doing it and one time i ended up in the hospital because of it.

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  47. Ok, your article just made my day. Thank you so much Olivia for writing this! I am that person, that weirdo that everyone thinks is a do-gooder and thats why I won't drink. This article really encouraged me. So, thank you so much. :D

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  48. I don't really drink either! I mean, I had one cocktail with my 18th birthday meal, and also a cheap vodka and coke at the pub on the last day of school with everyone, but apart from that - I stick to water, herbal tea and orange juice! I have noting against drinking (all my friends drink/go clubbing regularly), it's just I'm not overly keen on the way it makes me feel after, or during, the session.. and I'm fine with me just being me! (aka without needing something to get me going/give me a boost).

    Shona x

    shonarose.blogspot.com

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  49. While I have one or two vodka cranberries when I'm on a night out, I'm not a big drinker at all. I remember going out for a meal with a friend I hadn't seen in a while and she was shocked I had a coke instead of a glass of wine. I can't stand the taste of it, I don't see why people find it so strange! Great post x

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  50. I admire you for this so much and although I am much too young I do have thoughts about going down this route as well! x

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  51. What a great post. I've never been much of a drinker and I've never been drunk. In college everyone else made such a big deal out of it and wanted me to join in or if not they wanted me to be the designated driver. So frustrating. You can have fun without drinking and I wish more people would realize that.

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  52. Love this post Olivia! I don't drink either but hate the pressure when hanging around with people who do. Good on you for writing this post in such an articulate way x
    - lana (lana-sultana.blogspot.com)

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  53. Amen to this! I don't get it when people criticise our life choices, we should all be free to choose what we put in our bodies, just as we can choose what to wear, eat, read, or even what faith we follow. I don't drink because it makes me feel icky. And yeah, I hate having to explain that, and you pretty much summed up my life too. Thanks for posting! Amanda x
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  54. I went a couple of years without drinking over my early 20/21 and 22. I did so because I was playing a sport and wanted to focus on everything rather than wasting time feeling hungover - especially because I suffer with hangovers. I'm thinking of going back into the non alcohol realm but I remember all of the questions and awkwardness.

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  55. Love this post! I used to drink a lot on a night out the last few times I got drunk I blacked out and that scared me so much I haven't really drunk alcohol again since and that was over 3 years ago. I found that I actually enjoy a night out more when I'm not completely out of my head and I don't miss the hangovers whatsoever!

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  56. Great post!

    I always drank during uni and 6th form, but now that I'm not surrounded by people that do, I'm so much happier that my head doesn't hurt during the night and I don't end up throwing up! Plus, you're right, mocktails are equally delish ;)

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  57. Agreed! I don't drink and I don't see why to drink because of peer pressures!

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  58. I god excited when I read the title of your post because I feel like a pariah for not drinking. I quit drinking in April because I just got fed up with feeling "off" on weekend mornings, I felt like I was wasting precious time. I'm quite a bit older than you so people started to think I had a Problem with alcohol when I quit & I found myself having to justify my decision & explain that I wasn't an alcoholic!!! Can you believe that, people think that being an alcoholic can be the only reason you would want to quit!! I was astonished at the assumptions people made. I had one friend tell me I shouldn't tell people I quit for that reason. I feel very much the odd one out but I feel great & have no desire to drink again. Nice to know I'm not alone.

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  59. Love this - as my hangovers have got worse over the years, I've been less and less inclined to drink on nights out but sometimes you feel like you have to. Maybe I'll actually commit to it next time I'm out!

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  60. I really appreciate this article Olivia. I just started uni in September and the drinking culture is mad here (and I'm in Liverpool where drinking is especially in their culture). I've never really enjoyed alcohol at all...never liked the taste and most definitely not the horrible hangover the next day but perhaps because of pressure I've just gone with the crowd. I already have issues with anxiety so the alcohol doesn't help that. I think after reading this it's made me realise it's not such a bad thing to say no to drink...I feel a lot better when I don't drink and mocktails are so much more enjoyable! Thank you! xxx

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  61. Such a great post, completely agree with you here. I had to stop drinking 2 years ago for health reasons, looking back i never liked it and it was down to peer pressure and being at uni. People always ask and i really think why should i need to justify myself?! I am so much better without it have a much better time and it actually feels like getting drunk is the weirder thing in the mix for me now! xxx

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  62. I'm so glad there are other people that don't drink.

    And yes, I don't care what other people do with their money. If they want to drink, good on them. I don't like alcohol, and people shouldn't hate on those that don't drink. It's silly!

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  63. Inspiring post Olivia! It really annoys me when people can't except these things, like in that Jameela quote about the fish, it's so true! I think it is very bold and admirable of you to have stood your ground through sixth form and uni and not allowed others to pressure you :)
    I think this post has touched on a really interesting topic and I really enjoyed reading your thoughts :)

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  64. It wreaks such havoc on your health! you should only have to say you don't drink for health reasons. you could also keep the "drinking mirror" app on your phone, to show all your curious doubters how their precious alcohol will make them look in time!

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  65. I really enjoyed this! I am partial a few drinks but recently I've gone off alcoholic drinks, I don't enjoy it as much as I have enjoyed nights with said coke and lemonades! Plus, you can get non alcoholic cocktails which taste probably better and leave out the headache which is always a positive. I have friends who don't drink and honestly people need to just respect other people's life choices. It shouldn't change people's perspective of you! x

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  66. I completely agree and can relate with this :). It's a shame that people find it so strange that others don't think. I have just finished university and don't drink either! I love people to ask questions and be open minded about things. I've had occasions where at the beginning of the night someone thought it was so weird and then by the end of the night were asking me how I do it and saying they wish they could!

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  67. wow you have sparked off so much interest great post. I drink quite regularly...I have just moved into my own house with my boyfriend and love a wine (or two) but I totally get that people choose not to it's only alcohol and I always make sure if any of my friends decide not to drink that I dont make them feel under pressure. your life your choice :D xx
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  68. Love this post, Olivia. I didn't drink for two years and got so much stick for not doing so, it's strange how people think its an acceptable thing to comment on! x

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  69. I'm so glad i've found normal people ever since I was 16 I've never enjoyed hitting the town i'm not saying I don't drink but i'm more of a social drinker like sitting in a pub with some friends or a drink with my meal etc. I don't drink to get drunk like most people I know, I drink because I like the taste.

    The way I see it, I prefer to spend my money on something I enjoy like the cinemas, gig or shopping than spending loads on booze and a taxi home

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  70. Thank you for this. It's nice to know I'm not the only one after reading your blog and other people's comments to know I am not the only one who doesn't drink or very little! It annoys me when people can't accept this and feel you have to get wasted to have a good time when you don't! Wish people didn't have to judge so much x

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  71. Such a good post! I don't drink because I don't want too but people find it so hard to accept. I would rather spend my money on clothes than drink ha xx

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  72. Excellent post and I identified with it completely! As a teenager, I just didn't do getting drunk and it was something I was nervous about when starting university. Most of my friends have been really accepting though and don't seem too bothered if I'm playing their drinking games with a glass of Appletiser in my hand rather than anything alcoholic. I'd much rather feel fresh the next day and not write off my weekends!
    Jennifer x
    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

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  73. Thank you for posting this. I am 23 years old and stopped drinking january this year. I had been drinking only on Special occasions anyway, but sometimes there were those nights out when it got too much. And I guess, I just realized that I didn't Need those nights anymore. I can have fun without alcohol; that Phrase makes me probably Sound so lame, but it's true. I have a Diet Coke in my Hand and I am happy; although some of the People around me don't believe that. But I decided not to care, because as you said, on the next day I can go Shopping without a headache but with a Little extra Money to spend...and for an absolute shopping-addict (well, there's got to be SOMETHING..=)) that is great!!=)

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  74. I do drink alcohol now and then. When I first started college it used to be a lot. After about four months I decided to have a white one. While all my friends drank, I stayed sober and I still had a great time. It's all about your mindset. You want to have a great night? You make it great. You don't need alcohol for that. Sure it makes you extra happy when you're happy and at least for me, I get out of my shell a bit more and become a master in socialising. But I often go out with friends and decide not to drink. No one ever forces me to do it. I don't think I've ever met someone who's tried to make me drink at a party when I say I want to be sober. Oh, and I pretty much never buy drinks at the bar. Too expensive. I drink at home or not at all. Hahah. Anyway. What I'm trying to say is, I like both sides.

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  75. Agreed! I've never felt the need to drink excessively and generally choose not to. It's terrible that people get so offended by it, I've been called 'uptight' or 'boring' because I excused myself from a round of drinks and it is pretty ridiculous that people feel so strongly about it.

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  76. I did the whole drinking and going out thing, figured out it rarely made me feel good and cost a lot of money so just stopped doing it. I certainly felt the pressure to fit in at uni and drink alcohol but being with my home friends and starting a home with my partner who also doesn't really drink has meant it's easy now.
    I'm far happier remembering all the little details of a night out and the songs which made me smile on the dance floor. The only tipple indulge in now is a glass of mulled wine at a Christmas market xx

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  77. I love this post, it's like you've worded my thoughts in a more sublime way! I too don't drink, mainly because of my medication but also because I'm just not interested and I don't enjoy the taste. I'm so over people skitting at you because of your individual choices. The fact people think you must drink to 'fit in' or you're boring or they 'don't understand how you can sip an orange juice and still enjoy yourself' says a lot about how much they prioritize something that is just a small part of life itself. Alcohol isn't everything, it's just a drink and I don't think it makes any difference to how you socialise as a person. Plus, like you said, us non drinkers get to remember every fun moment, have more money to spend on things we can actually benefit from, live a healthier life free of headache, the worry of liver problems when drinking excessively and tons of calories (which we often just make up for in food but hey I'd rather do for that). Not that I'm saying having a drink now and again is bad, I just don't understand why people would want to get so embarrassingly paralytic to the point they're laid on the floor not knowing what day it is or who is dealing with you! It's a scary world out there! x

    Bridie | Upon My Sleeve

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  78. I wrote about this on my blog because after many experiences, I decided that drinking wasn't for me. I hated how people pressured me to drink because you have to and it's abnormal now you're legal to not. After drinking a few times, I had a bad experience and I just swore off getting that bad again, and then with expense and generally looking after your body, why not have a lemonade and be as FUN on the dancefloor than being out of it.

    I see people find pride in waking up hungover with a cold dominoes, or they constantly complain about headaches. If it bothers you, try not drinking? I'm not dissing alcohol, people can drink and it's fine, it's just not for me! :)

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Food Fashion Beauty - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  79. Brilliantly written and interesting subject.
    Personally, at 30 I'm pretty much a non-drinker. I only drink (5 drink max) on a girls night out. I don't even drink on 'date nights'!lol I'm always designated driver dave. I'm not a home drinker and much prefer spending my evenings on the sofa with a cuppa or hot chocolate.
    I had been using the 'I've just had a baby, not able to drink for 9 months, so just used to it' line, however, I think now my boy is 30 months old, I've kind of passed that 'excuse' and now, I simply say that I'm not a big drinker.
    Even in my 'youth', I wasn't a 'binge' drinker. I maybe did go out two nights a week, but, as above, I always knew my limit and never got drunk or to a point where I didn't know what I was doing or what had happened the night before.
    My parents were very big drinkers and my mother a very heavy smoker that got the better of her (bless her soul). This gave me two paths, to follow in their footsteps, or see the harm and consequences and I did the latter.
    Everyone is entitled to their opinion and personal preferences and this is yours. As you say, you might not like a certain food, but people don't try shove that on you, why is alcohol so different.

    Caroline.x
    notesfromcaroline.com

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  80. I love this post! I drank more at University because of the people around me, but left to my own devices I would much rather have a tasty soft drink! I do drink occasionally - i like wine with a meal on special occasions, and will have a cider / cocktail when out with the girls, but I normally only stick to one, and even that gets a lot of comments! When I choose not to drink I shouldn't be questioned about it, and it should just be accepted. I wish I could have stood my ground more at university but I drink a lot less now. I have a lot more admiration for people who don't drink, than for people who can't socialise without at least three glasses of something. It's your choice, but people who choose not to drink or drink very little shouldn't be queried!

    Jo xx

    She Wears Burgundy

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  81. I absolutely adore that you shared this. My mother is exactly the same way and goes through the same things. Everything you mention is so spot on, and I really love the fish comparison. I myself do drink, but not much so I can relate on somewhat of a similar level. I just hate feeling terrible the next day!

    xx
    Faith
    http://www.thats-just-fabulous.com

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  82. This is just me summed up in a couple of paragraphs. I've never been one to have more than 3 drinks in an evening (even if it is at home celebrating the start of the new year). Even when I turned 18 (I'm now nearly 22), I still have only been out clubbing 3 times. I then didn't drink a lot, 2 drinks at the very maximum.

    My friends sometimes question it and I am more than OK to say that at 21 I have never been drunk. I don't want to. Not only because it's expensive to drink out (I like to spend my money on things that will last a bit longer than half an hour or half a second for a shot), I hate the sickness feeling and can't stand super late nights but also because for a young woman to be drunk just isn't attractive to me. It looks cheap and nasty.

    Now as I am the driver whenever my boyfriend and I go out, I can't drink more than 1 anyway. I do like a glass of wine in the evenings too but you won't see me with my legs behind my head and my face stuck in the toilet bowl...

    Sian x

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  83. Such a great post! I agree with everything you said. I'm 24 myself sometimes I like nice cocktail while having dinner with my man, but very regularly and most of the times I'm drinking mocktail.
    I remember once at a family Christmas party one person was so after me for me not drinking alcohol. I had my own juice glass and was completely comfortable until this person started nagging me. Hate when this happens and I just wish people could be more respectful to others who have different choice.

    Dovile
    Http://www.dovilefashion.co.uk

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  84. So glad you wrote this!

    I am 22 and do not drink. I did drink from 17-20 and alcohol almost ruined my life - I am so blessed today to have my blog, a job, my family, my degree - the list is infinite. I know today that drinking never means just one drink for me, that I drink to get drunk, and once I am drunk I am capable of throwing my life away for that feeling.

    If you ever want to talk more about this, or if anyone reading this wants to talk about being sober, please feel free to contact me. :)


    Warm Regards,
    Alexandra
    www.littlewildheart.com

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  86. Thank you so SO much for this blog post! I feel exactly the same way and sometimes I need to be reminded its perfectly okay to feel that way. I can promise you this post will be getting many more visits from me whenever I'm made to feel like a bore and need a "it's okay Emily!!' haha :) Thanks for being so much better and putting my thoughts into words than I am :) x

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  87. To sum it up, I am the girl at the Christmas works do last year who toasted everyone's prosecco with a cup of green tea, so I totally appreciate this post!

    I do drink on the odd occasion but rarely more than one because I just can't take it (I go bright red, feel instantly sleepy and get a bit dizzy!). I blame my genetics but while my friends might go on to have 4/5 more drinks, I'm straight on the soft drinks. I'm ok with that, my friends are too but I do cringe a bit when people say 'I like drunk Winnie'. They don't say that about any of my other friends because being drunk isn't unusual for them on nights out - but for me, it's not something that they see very much or at all these days!

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  88. Brilliant post! As someone who drinks occasionally I definitely know where you're coming from and I've never understood why it's considered a 'problem' amongst others or why they are so baffled as to the thought of me not wanting to drink on that particular occasion. Thanks for sharing!
    Hannah x
    Hanniemc.co.uk

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  89. I love your sweater! Great post
    xo
    www.laurajaneatelier.com

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  90. Love the sweater. Loved your post.

    Eea P
    www.eeapetrescu.com

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  91. I totally relate to this! Your post made me feel a bit less boring... Thank you for that :p
    Every time I go to a big party and ask for a Ice Tea everyone looks at me like I'm such a weirdo... well, The truth is that I don't really like the taste of alcohol so why should I force myself? :)

    xo
    www.valium-and-cherrywine.com


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  92. This is a great post! I'm anything but teetotal but I do occasionally decide to take the car on a night out and not drink. I have just as much, if not more sometimes, fun! It's definitely about the company you're in and not what's in your glass.

    Jessica. xx

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  93. I was just about to say that I remember reading an article by Jameela Jamil on this subject too. I've had vertigo for about 8 weeks now and when I have a drink it seems to flare up. I was thinking about going tee total a week or two ago and I don't feel so freaked out by it now ( as the wees have gone by I don't feel like I've been missing out on much). Alcohol shouldn't be a medium of happiness and it's awful that most people feel as though they need it to have a good time.

    Rachael O x

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  94. I don't drink either.. if I need a drink, I go get a milkshake :) that's the extent of my drinking vice haha

    Arianne

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  95. Thank you so much for this post.
    I have never drunk anything, I tried half a glass of low alcohol wine and thought 'I think I honestly prefer Shloer). I have never been drunk, and don't intend to. I understand why some people may want to but personally it doesn't appeal to me.
    Luckily I have a boyfriend who feels the same way, but only after having the pressure make him do a few daft mistakes.
    My opinion, do what you feel is right for you. When people look at me aghast and reiterate my statement 'I've never been drunk before' I don't look proud or sad or guilty. I look me. I don't push my opinion on people and other people's opinions don't bother me.
    I'm glad that there are bloggers out there who explain what seems to be a slightly controversial subject in such a fantastic way. X

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  96. I can totally relate to this. I'm 18 years old and I don't drink either. I've tried it but I don't like the taste of alcohol so there's no point in drinking it and I can't understand why some people think it is strange or that I'm weird and boring. People are always saying 'you should try it' or 'just a little bit' like if they can't accept the fact I don't drink.

    I didn't know your blog but I'm glad I've found it. New follower here :)

    Lots of hugs, A
    myvolatilelove.blogspot.com

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  97. A great post! I'm 23 and don't drink - not for any reason of religion - but because I don't think it adds anything to my life.

    Lizzie's Daily Blog

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  98. this is possibly one of the best blog posts i've ever read, i think it's great that you don't drink! i'm partial to a glass of wine but it's normally when i'm with my parents and i just put myself to bed after a couple! i'm 21 too and i feel like i'm done with all the nights out, or maybe it's the people, either way, more people should read this post because it's pretty inspirational x

    http://adelesmithsjourney.blogspot.co.uk

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  99. Wow! Where has this blogpost been?! I'm 17 and I don't drink which like you said, seems to be a massive issue for some people - when it really shouldn't be. I often get called 'boring' 'dull' or the one to kick you right in the stomach is to be rejected from parties because not drinking makes me 'not wild enough.'

    I won't go on because you have summed up my whole opinion, but thanks for making this blogpost it was nice to read i'm not the only one!

    http://snapsfrommyrucksack.blogspot.co.uk

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  100. I don't drink. However, I did it a few times in university (legally, of course) just because I wanted to "fit in" with the crowd the girl I dated had. It wasn't for me, and I was a fool for trying so hard to please a person who didn't have the same values as I did.

    I don't drink because of health reasons (I'm not suffering from anything alcohol-related; if anything, I figured out that I have an absurdly high amount of alcohol tolerance.) Instead, science shows liquor and alcohol can, and will, make you do stupid things (e.g. rape, fornication, fights, drunk driving, etc.) And it hurts your body (e.g. hangovers, liver cancer, cirrhosis, fatty liver, those excessive calories, etc.)

    Why do so? I'm talking win-loss, pros-cons here. :3

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